When I was 20 years old, I was sitting on a beach at sunset with some friends. Two random strangers about our age walked up to our group and asked if they could join. The setting was beautiful. The fire was warm against the cool ocean breeze, the sun was about to go down making the sky a brilliant work of art. We decided that they seemed harmless. Who wouldn’t want to enjoy our beach bonfire at sunset? One of the strangers was a young guy who seemed like an out of towner. He sat next to me and turned to face me. I looked over at him and he asked me, “What is the purpose of life?” I replied, “To give life a purpose.”
In our early twenties, we begin exploring our life’s purpose. We are at the ripe age to begin looking at the rest of our lives, how we want it all to go, and what we should be doing with the precious time that we are given here.
Are we envisioning a fast-paced lifestyle driven towards success, wealth, and fame? Are we wanting to help other people and make the world a better place in whatever way that we can? Are we just wanting to discover the meaning of happiness, love, and harmony?
As we grow older, those questions never really fade. We might find the wealth, success, love, and happiness that we are looking for only to discover something that has always been missing: our purpose.
What is our purpose in this life?
Life purpose is a deep topic, so you are going to want some deep questions to ask that will help you find it. I have been pondering this question myself ever since that beach bonfire. Maybe I was right in my answer, that my purpose in life was to give my life a purpose? Maybe I wasn’t digging deep enough? Maybe my answer had more to it than I realized?
I’m not sure the answer, to be honest. So, I decided to put together a list of deep questions to ask to find mine and your life’s purpose.
1. What did you love as a child? What were you drawn to?
When you were a child, what were you passionate about? What lit your eyes up and filled you with wonder and joy? What were you naturally drawn to or talented at? Were you interested in science? Helping others?
2. If you didn’t have a job, what would you love to do with your time?
If you had all of the time in the world and didn’t have to worry about money, what would you love to be doing? What would make you feel fulfilled in your life and bring you joy every day?
3. In the past three months, what have you done that made you feel alive?
What have you done within the last three months that thrilled you? That brought you back to the excitement in life? What challenged you and inspired you at the same time?
4. What do you want your future grandchildren to say about you?
(A deep question to ask for those of you that plan on having children) How do you want your grandchildren to think about what kind of person you are today? If you don’t plan on having grandchildren, how would you want future generations to think about your life here, now? How do you want to be remembered?
5. How can you make this world a better place?
Take a look at the world around you. What about this world can be better? How can you make a difference? What can you do to leave a positive impact on the world? How can you leave the world a little better than when you found it?
6. Do you have what it takes to make your biggest dreams come true?
Do you have the work ethic, the resources, the know-how, and the support to make your biggest dreams come true? Are you willing to do what it takes and commit to following through?
Only you know the answers.
Only you can ask yourself these deep questions to find your life’s purpose. Only you can know the answers.
Finding the right answer versus the wrong one can be difficult. It is easy to get stuck between two choices and not know which path is the right one. When you find an answer that rings true in your heart, it will feel crystal clear and make perfect sense. If an answer isn’t the right one, it will feel muddy, confusing, and difficult. That for me is the best way to choose a path.
If you are having difficulty answering these deep questions, talk to your loved ones about it. Ask them to answer these questions for you and get a sense for how other people see you. Their answers may surprise you and help you find the clarity you need.
When it comes down to it, only you can answer these deep questions.
If you are a life coach with a client who is struggling to find their life’s purpose, these questions will be useful in helping them zero in on what they are looking for. As a life coach, it is your responsibility to lead your clients as they navigate the answers to these questions. Your knowledge and expertise will help them find the clarity that they are looking for.